“I feel isolated, overwhelmed, and stuck, all at the same time.”
“Nothing I’m doing seems like enough.”
“I could never let people know how hard things are. I don’t know where to start.”
What if you never had to get stuck in stress, anxiety, or anger, ever again?
Tell me if this sounds like you:
You're feeling stressed out and isolated because of the pandemic.
Easy question, huh?
Okay, we're all struggling. If you already have depression, anxiety, past trauma, or a difficult situation in your life, it's probably a lot worse now!
A whole lot of us are feeling like the work we can get done isn't enough, what we can do to GET work isn't enough, what we're doing to keep our lives stable isn't enough, what we can do to support our loved ones isn't enough, what we can do to help our kids with school isn't enough....
All the old feelings we already had, of not being enough, of not being worthy, of being frustrated by all kinds of different things about ourselves or our lives, are magnified by this horrible situation.
I see a lot of ads for some app that promises to teach kids "emotional regulation." Every time it crosses my path, there are people commenting: "I need this! Why isn't there something like this for adults?"
It's a good question.
Wouldn't you like a way to process all those big feelings that come up, and trade them in for clarity, serenity... maybe even a minute to actually breathe?
That's exactly why I created the Trade It In Technique. All the unhealed pain, all the old issues, that every one of us has, makes all of this so much worse.
I want you to have the tools you need to quickly deal with all those difficult moments in your life.
I want you to be able to weather every single day of this with serenity, with security, maybe even with a real smile on your face!
I want you to get to have joy and calm somewhere inside you, even during the hardest times.
With this mini-course, you CAN develop these skills -- in less than an hour.
The Trade It In Technique mini-course includes:
• A video that walks you through the technique, plus audio-only and transcript versions
• Examples, motivation, and clear explanations of our emotional processes and the reasons behind them
• Guidance on how to identify your support network
• A worksheet to help you use the Trade It In Technique consistently and track your progress
• Suggested scripts you can use to get comfortable with "trading it in"
Right now, you're probably struggling with unwanted, overwhelming, chaotic changes.
Maybe you don't even have the time to try to find the help you need.
Maybe you don't know what would help you in the first place, or there seems to be nothing that could help.
Maybe you have the time, but your ability to use it has been drained by anxiety, depression, shame, and all the other invisibly painful effects of trauma.
Imagine if every single one of us had the tools we need to heal and thrive.
All the unhealed pain, all the old issues, that every one of us has, make all of this so much worse.
There's a quote from Hamlet that I always hated: "Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so."
I hated it because it seemed so presumptuous. It's all a matter of opinion? It depends on your perspective? What about death, torture, war, abuse? What about a pandemic?
But there have been so many things in my life that I feared would happen, or that I never expected, that turned out to have benefits I couldn't have even imagined. Often, it's the ones that seem the hardest that delivered the greatest gifts.
Humans are incredibly resilient. We can learn and grow through anything... if we have the right tools.
Imagine if you had those tools.
You can think of the Trade It In Technique as a way to get rid of all your emotional clutter.
We all have them rattling around in our head: Old resentments. Cruel statements from the past. Fears that we can never seem to argue away.
There are lots of great slower, even systemic, long-term strategies for clearing these up. But we also desperately need a quick and effective way to get unstuck when they come up in our everyday lives.
I'm going to show you why we hang on to these things for so long. What you get out of trading them in. And exactly how to do it.
I'm going to identify what feelings we all can get stuck in, show you how to learn what they're trying to tell you, and then how to let them go so that you can hear the priceless intuition that's inside each one of us.
The Trade It In Technique works for ANY big "sticky" feelings. For all the stressful, so-called "negative" feelings that sap your energy, and distract you from having a delightful, present, joyful life.
You may have been told to value your anger, or your fears, because they help keep you safe. They let you know when you're in danger. And that's true!
But, as you may have noticed, we're not always that great at knowing when our feelings are saying, "you need to take action now," and when they're saying, "you were hurt in the past! You were hurt in the past, and it sucked! Remember that? Remember that right now, with me, as if it's currently happening!"
Feelings don't always speak clearly. If you want to decode them, you need the right tools. That's what the Trade It In Technique gives you: a way to decode what's coming up for you, and intuit the next right thing to do with it.
If you feel like you keep snapping at your loved ones, getting stressed out by their choices and their problems, and you just want a little more patience and calm so you can be present with them instead, the Trade It In Technique is for you.
If you're tired of getting stuck in annoyances, anxieties, and stressors that just seem to build on each other, then the Trade It In Technique is for you.
If you're tired because you're burned out emotionally from everything that just seems to keep on happening, all the confusing and difficult and emotional chaos around you, the Trade It In Technique is for you.
If you have past traumas, or even current ones, that are weighing down your life and getting in the way of your happiness, the Trade It In Technique is for you, too.
1. How can I be calm when we're in a pandemic?!
I know, it seems totally counter-intuitive. But the idea isn't that you "should" be calm in response to the pandemic. It's that it's possible to be calm in the midst of difficult and even tragic situations -- and that it's really easy to burn out otherwise.
And if you're anything like me, you live in a bit of a paradox. If a building was falling down, or someone was being rushed to the emergency room, you'd seem very calm and be putting out all the metaphorical (or literal) fires. Instead, it's everyday life that carries the stress that people normally associate with a crisis.
I promise, you don't need that stress. And it is possible (but unnerving at first!) to live without it.
2. I feel guilty about the very idea of trying to happy and not worry when so many people are suffering.
I hear you! But I have to point something out: YOU are one of the people who is suffering. You can end at least one person's suffering, right here. And that will free up your emotional energy to help the people around you, and to help make the world a better place.
The problem is not that if so many people are suffering, we should all suffer with them. The problem is that people are suffering.
3. How long is the course?
The video (or audio, if you prefer) is a little less than an hour long.
I don't promise that you'll be an expert after an hour! But it walks you through what to do and why to do it, so that you can use the handouts and do the exercise as much or as little as you personally need to.
4. Will this help me immediately?
Yes, it absolutely will. In my experience, most people learn a lot about themselves just from the material covered in the video. And honestly, just knowing that you have new tools, getting that hope for better experiences and a better life, helps a lot.
And if you immediately start using those tools, it will help so much more.
5. How do I access it?
You'll be able to download the files immediately, and you'll also get an email with everything you need in case you need to download anything again.
You have lifetime access to everything: the video, the stand-alone audio of the class, the transcript, the worksheets, and the optional Facebook group. If you ever lose any of it and can't find that email, just let me know. I'm also working on creating a members-only section of the website, so you'll be able to come right back here and click a button to get everything too.
6. How much does it cost?
The course normally costs $54 for all of that great stuff. But right now, I'm launching it at a special low price of $36. It goes up to the normal price on November 1st. And it'll only be on sale for two weeks after that: then I'm taking it down for a little while so I can incorporate all the great feedback to make it even better!
And yep -- if I add any worksheets, retool the video, or make any other big changes to this course in the future, you will get those too. I'll email them right to you, post them in the Facebook group, and add them to any members-only download pages.
7. Isn't this just stuffing your feelings down?
Nope! I totally agree that stuffing, ignoring, or denying our feelings does not work. Not in the long run. Not really even in the short run. This is all about noticing your feelings, acknowledging what you feel, sharing it with somebody else, learning anything you need to from it, and being able to move out of those feelings naturally.
8. I don't have time for one more thing!
I know the feeling! It can be really hard to set aside even an hour for yourself. But it comes with quite a payoff. Getting stuck in stress, anger, anxiety, and fear takes up a huge amount of energy. When your emotional and physical energy isn't being consumed by difficult emotions, you'll discover so much more energy, and even time, for the things you love.
That first hour, though, doesn't have to be a whole hour at once! You can watch (or read, or listen to) the course a little bit at a time. And once you've started using the Trade It In Technique, using it throughout your day to free yourself up can take just a few minutes.
9. Can I buy it for somebody else?
Absolutely! At the moment, the best way to do that is to purchase a gift card to send them, and point them to this page. But my goal is to make it possible to buy a course directly for someone.
10. When does the course start?
It's a recorded course, not a live one, so you can start it anytime you want!
11. How many times can I take it?
You have lifetime access to all the course materials, so you can listen to, read, or watch the course as often as you like.
12. What if I finish the course and I'm still struggling?
I'm here for you! You can always email me or contact me through Facebook Messenger with any questions. You'll also have access to an optional Facebook group of other people using the Trade It In Technique, where you can share, read other people's experiences, and ask and answer questions.
13. Is it accessible?
If you have visual processing issues, are blind, or video doesn't work for you for some other reason, you won't be missing anything. I've designed the course so that the visuals don't add anything you're not already getting from the audio: they're just illustrations, like a picture of a compost pile when I talk about compost of a metaphor. (I would love to add an audio description track, if I can figure out how.) The transcript of the video does include descriptions of the visuals. And you can also listen to the audio track by itself.
Deaf or hard of hearing? The video is captioned -- with the actual script I wrote for it, so there should be none of the typos or algorithmic errors that you see in a lot of captions.
Concerns I haven't thought of? Just let me know what accomodations you need, or what changes I should make to the course!
14. What if I'm already in therapy?
The Trade It In Technique is totally compatible with anything you're currently doing in therapy. If you're doing trauma work, somatic work around emotions, or another related modality, using this technique will, in my experience, enhance what you're doing in therapy. If you're doing something unrelated, it shouldn't interfere at all.
Normally, my refund policy is what you're about to read, below. But I'll add: if you buy the course, and your therapist or psychologist tells you that it will interfere with your work with them, or in any way is something you shouldn't do right now, I'll give you a refund! You can also hold on to the course to do in the near future if that is what will work for you; I'll still be here to help.
The Trade It In Technique comes with an iron-clad guarantee. If you go through the whole (very short!) course and worksheets, try the technique, and it still does not work for you, I will give you a 110% refund.
I really want it to work for you, though, so I strongly encourage you to ask questions, contact me directly, and let me help you troubleshoot it first!
Who Is The Trade It In Technique Great For?
If you're sheltering-in-place with family, you need this tool under your belt! I hear from so many of you who love your in-laws, your parents, your kids, but... being with them 24/7, during stressful times, is really, really hard.
The Trade It In Technique lets you stay calm when the school sends seven emails in one morning; move through the pain of being misgendered or judged, so you have a chance at setting those boundaries they keep ignoring; and learn new ways of responding to screaming children -- or screaming adults.
If you have a book inside you, a small business idea, a project you wish you could create, and you feel stuck and just can't seem to get it started -- or finished? I love using the Trade It In Technique to see what's stopping me from being successful.
If you're anything like me, you have a lot of self-doubt, insecurity, or just plain uncertainty about whether and how to make it happen. In my experience, that stuff really blocks the flow of inspiration and motivation that you need to fulfill your passions.
Struggling with executive function? As an autistic person with ADHD, I feel you! I've heard it said that we need an emotional connection or commitment to something in order for it to get done.
I don't know if that's always true; maybe it is. But I do know that having any kind of emotional resistance to a task -- fear about doing it, or about not doing it, or about its outcomes -- can make it almost impossible to get it done.
The Trade It In Technique is great at clearing those barriers out of the way. In fact, I used it to finish writing this sales page!
How Does This Work?
Grab your copy of the Trade It In Technique right here!
You'll be able to download the course video and worksheets right away. They'll also magically show up in your email, so you never have to worry about losing the files. And you'll get a link to the members' Facebook group.
Watch the video, listen to the audio, or read the transcript, and start practicing it right away! If you get stuck, just ask the group or contact me; I'm here to help!
Imagine where you could be in an hour.
Maybe ready to start a new project... learn something you've been dying to learn but felt intimidated by... maybe just able to relax and have fun.
Imagine what your everyday life would be like with less stress, less fear, less anxiety.
Think about today, or yesterday: what bothered you? What did you struggle with?
Here's what it looked like for me: I didn't set an alarm, and I couldn't tell what time it was when I woke up. Our elderly cat wanted Big Snuggles and just wouldn't stop purring. Instead of worrying about whether I would get everything done today if I didn't get up Right Now, I trusted that I had enough flexibility to pet my cat. When I finally cut her off, it actually turned out to be a good hour and a half earlier than I'd thought!
My partner is off on a trip with our toddler, who I talked to on video chat while I worked. Getting off the chat was sad, and the toddler cried. I felt some fear about their Big Feelings. I traded it in, and had a very careful and compassionate conversation with my partner about it over text while the two of them ate burritos.
I had a great time working on this very same page, but found myself struggling with the fear that I wouldn't get it done, that I would self-sabotage. There's honestly nothing more annoying than self-sabotaging by getting stuck in the fear that you're going to self-sabotage! So I traded it in, and was able to put on music, get back into writing, and have fun with it again.
Imagine having this technique yourself. What could you be using it on? How much fun might it be to play around with it and see what you can get unstuck in your life? I can tell you from personal experience, when you're in the flow of inspiration, it can take you to a lot of surprising places... both metaphorically, and literally.
(Don't forget, the price goes up on November 14th!)
In just about an hour from now, you could have a clear support network, a community to practice with, and all the skills you need to transform your emotional landscape and your everyday life.
I want you to have all of this. And you deserve it. Everyone does. I promise.